36-45

Your body is doing a lot, and the health things you need to keep up on—from Pap smears and breast health exams to pregnancy and postpartum care—can feel complex. Let’s navigate the ups and downs of this time in your life together.

Expect more at your wellness exam

As we age, there are more and more things to be mindful of in terms of maintaining our health—which means we get to cover more in your wellness visit. If you’re having a specific problem (like irregular bleeding, painful sex, new depression or anxiety, etc.), let’s definitely talk about it. If it’s having a big impact on your life, together we can consider changing the focus of your visit to be about the issue you’re experiencing rather than preventative health. Otherwise, addressing your concern in detail may require a follow-up to your wellness visit. Speaking of follow-up, ever wonder what the difference is between a preventative health visit and an office visit? Learn more below.

How are you taking care of you?

Between raising children, caring for aging parents and nurturing your career and your relationships—your life is kinda busy these days. So we’ll get to the point…let’s talk about how you’re prioritizing YOU. Beyond eating healthy and being active, we really want to know what you enjoy, what makes you feel well—and are you getting enough of that in your life?

Your family plan

Your provider will probably ask whether you’re thinking about becoming pregnant—and if not, what you’re doing to prevent it. If you don’t see pregnancy in your future, is your current method of birth control the one you want to stick with through menopause? You have a lot of options and this is a great time to discuss them all—and, possibly, to consider switching to a long-acting form of contraception or a permanent solution if you have sex with sperm-producing partners.

Fertility

If you do see pregnancy in your future, we want to talk about that, too. Your clinician will want to know more about your pregnancy and reproductive health history to help you come up with the best plan for becoming pregnant and having a healthy pregnancy. Depending on your history, they may recommend some initial steps to look at possible hurdles and what you can do to have the best chance of overcoming them. There are some additional risks that go along with having children after 35 and this is a great time to get all your questions answered.

Peeing yourself is never normal

People who have had children experience urinary incontinence more than people who haven’t—but we’re here to tell you that it can happen to anyone and we want to talk about it. There are a range of options to address it that have been shown to be quite effective.

Breast cancer screening

As they near age 40, many people want to discuss when they should start having mammograms to screen for breast cancer and how often. Let’s do it! Your provider can help you sort through the varying recommendations and decide what’s best for you. Gather as much family history as you can before your visit; specifically, whether you have a mother, sister, or daughter (first-degree relative) or multiple family members on either your mother’s or father’s side of the family who have had breast cancer. This will influence your clinician’s recommendations on when you should start and how often you should have mammograms.

Let's talk about it

Here are some topics your provider may bring up

Sex drive (libido)

The desire for sex can naturally fluctuate over the years and can be affected by many things, including puberty, pregnancy, menopause, illness, medications, relationships and life circumstances, among other things. If you have questions or concerns about your sex drive, talk to your provider.

Pregnancy Prevention

Revisit your birth control method. Is it still working for you? Is your family complete? Do you want to consider something else?

Breast cancer screening

Recommendations on when to begin having mammograms to screen for breast cancer vary and begin as early as age 40 for people of average risk. Talk to your provider about your risk factors and make a plan for when to start.

Cervical cancer screening

Pap smears with combined HPV testing continue until age 65. If your results are normal, your provider will likely recommend screening every three to five years, depending on what type of testing you’ve had in the past and your past results.

Sexually transmitted diseases

While the risk of sexually transmitted infection generally goes down as we age (yay!), you’ll still want to talk to your provider if you’ve had a new partner since your last screening. You should also be tested for HIV at least once. There is no agreement among medical professionals about how often re-testing should occur; your provider may assess your risk and recommend re-testing.

General health screenings

We want to make sure all of you is healthy! These are the recommendations for general health screening in this age bracket. A primary care provider can help you stay on top these, if we’re not addressing them when you’re in to see us:

High blood pressure. The U.S. Preventative Services Task Force recommends getting your blood pressure tested every year beginning at age 40; before age 40, every two to three years is okay if you don’t have other risk factors for cardiovascular disease. Optimal blood pressure in healthy people assigned female at birth is less than 120/80.

Diabetes. Screening for diabetes is recommended if you are overweight or obese, have high blood pressure, high cholesterol or have had diabetes during pregnancy.

Thyroid disease. Periodic screening is recommended beginning at age 45.

Cholesterol/lipids. Screening tests for high cholesterol are recommended periodically, but may be done more frequently if you are overweight, obese or have other risk factors.

Vaccines

Don’t forget to get your seasonal flu vaccine. If you are or become pregnant, you should also have a Tdap vaccine sometime between 27 and 36 weeks. If not, you should get a “Td” (tetanus and diphtheria) booster every 10 years. We also recommend staying up to date with COVID vaccination guidelines >

Additional Resources for You

CDC.gov

The website of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention – this is a great resource for vaccination and disease screening and prevention recommendations.

GoodRx

A website to compare the cost of prescription medications.

Hystersisters

On online resource and forum for women having bleeding issues, fibroids, pelvic pain, etc.

MiddlesexMD Blog

A good resource for articles on sex after 40. Also includes various products, but this is not a specific endorsement of those.

Our Moment of Truth

Learn more about midwifery care and women's health during pregnancy and beyond on this site from the American College of Nurse-Midwives.

Planned Parenthood

Great information about all aspects of reproductive health.

Up to Date

A searchable database of current medical information for both patients and providers.

Voices for PFD

A great resource from the American Urogynecologic Society for women experiencing pelvic floor disorders, including bladder and bowel control issues and pelvic organ prolapse.

What to Expect During a Physical Exam

This resource from the Oregon Medical Board provides more information on what to expect from various types of physical exams at the doctor's office, including how to advocate for your rights and what to know about medical chaperones.